Can’t lose fat? Come on! You’re not that stupid!

Warning: This does start off a little over the top, but it gets better. Stick with me. You’ll be happy you did.

In the last article I presented a bunch of responses that were submitted to the following question…

Sticking to a nutrition and/or training plan for a very short period of, say, 10 weeks. Assuming this will produce visible results and quite literally change your life wrt health & fitness…

Why can’t you do it? Why do you break? Why is consistency a problem?

While the nature of answers were very different, they all had one thing in common. Most people didn’t have an issue with the diet or the workout program or the complexity as much as they had issues with…


So, today, let’s forget high reps, low reps, low fat, low carb, distance running, resistance training and everything else related to nutrition and training and go to step 0. The step where one needs to realize that he/she is capable of losing fat and/or regaining health!

Are you really that stupid?

I need to get this off my chest and, more importantly, I need to get this into your head. In my opinion, anyone who is obese has to pretty stupid. Of course, this excludes the unfortunate few with genetic hormonal dysregulations/imbalances etc. But my point is that you don’t go to bed all fit n cut and wake up fat n flabby!

Becoming overweight or obese is a result of many many months of crappy eating and/or a sedentary lifestyle. It is impossible for any human to become overweight overnight. And I’ll stop here, ‘cos Calvin and I have discussed this in the past and you’re better off reading that than my ramblings today.

But this is what I don’t get – you have PLENTY of feedback about you getting fat. Your trousers feel like a noose and the buttons on your shirt get shot into thin air not being able to handle your chub! I mean, come on! You HAVE TO know this! And once your clothes don’t fit you, they don’t grow. You physically have to go to a store, choose clothes that are a size bigger, reach inside your wallet/bag and pay money for it. So don’t give me that ‘oh it sneaked up on me’ crap anymore! You knew you were getting fat and you let it happen. Period.

Gaining a few pounds, going up a size, adding a little chub – I understand. Life happens. But letting yourself go to a point of becoming obese or 40+ lbs overweight? Are you kidding me? Are you really that stupid?

Now don’t get all defensive here. I used to be fat too and I had all the excuses you do right now. I know how it feels to get fat, to live fat and to go from fat to fit. So be a sport and take a hit! Its OK to be called stupid when do do something stupid. You know… like when I asked my clients in India to eat a cartload of vegetables without having the slightest idea about the pesticide scare here. Like when I ran 50 miles a week and encouraged everyone I met to do so. Like when I tried to explain to my wife why she was wrong. Like when I write stuff that I shouldn’t on the blog. Like right now.

Actually, you’re not that stupid

But funnily enough, you are, obviously, not that stupid. I mean, your life resume is pretty impressive! Confused? This is what I mean –

  • You learnt to walk
  • You learnt one or more languages
  • You completed school and college (at least)
  • You learnt to use a computer and navigate through the internet
  • You were able to find yourself a job and at least do well enough to not get fired
  • You were able to give birth and/or raise one or more children

See my point? These are all tasks that are harder than fat loss… MUCH harder than fat loss. And guess what? These tasks also take much longer to master/compete than a fat loss program! And, clearly, you have been able to do these things pretty darn well. Any person who has done all this… can’t be stupid now can they? So what is it then?

Consistency! Commitment! Regularity!

You don’t have them! Right? Wrong! Let me explain.

You are committed. Very committed indeed. Just look at those tasks you did complete! Let’s take a couple of examples.

  • School – If you did complete school, that is ~ 2400 to 2800 days of going to a place and doing what was expected out of you. Sure, some excelled and some didnt, but all of you actually did it! You were consistent… you were committed… and even if your attendance % was 70, you were pretty darn regular.
  • Work – If you are able to afford a computer and read this article on the internet, I’ll assume you have a job… a job to which you show up to at least 4-5 times a week. Irrespective of what the job is, you somehow manage to stay consistent and committed and regular!

So you are can be consistent, committed and regular with nutrition and training too. But you just won’t be! Why? Maybe because mommy isn’t there to smack you in the ass every time you stuff your face? Maybe because you don’t run the risk of living on the street if you won’t show up for training?

But it doesn’t matter. And, No. I’m not going to give you the ‘You’re an adult now and you ought to know better!’ speech… ‘cos you are an adult now and you ought to know better!

Realize first and then you shall redeem yourself

Listen, irrespective of what the reason is, realize that you can do this. I’ve said it plenty of times before – fat loss is very simple… not easy… but simple. As a matter of fact, every single client of mine, who has done what he/she has been asked to do, has seen impressive results (Except a handful of women who started gaining weight very rapidly after starting to work with me. But thats because they got super fertile after making the dietary changes and hence got pregnant! So watch out!). And these people are exactly like you – People who live super busy lives with kids and responsibilities and demanding jobs! These are smart people like you who let themselves go since health didn’t feature in their list of priorities. After reading this blog or due to some knock-on-the-head incident in life, they realized that they have let themselves go a little too much and decided to make a change. And what happened?

Realization -> Decision -> Action -> Redemption

My point is…

Step 1 – Realize that you can do this! You completed 14 yrs of schooling… you can complete 6 months of a body/health transformation phase! You fought your way through life and landed yourself in a nice job… you can suck it up for 6 months and find yourself looking and feeling awesome!

Step 2 – Decide that your health needs to be one of your top priorities. Understand that letting go of your health will result in a short life that is filled only with guilty short-lived pleasures that die the moment they pass the lips!

Step 3 – Act! Don’t mess around too much. There are enough theories and diets and training plans around that can make you go in circles for the next 3000 years. Find someone who can help you with this and get started! You’re better off doing something properly than perennially looking for that magic bullet or that perfect diet/training plan. Again… do something about it!

Step 4 – Redeem yourself by staying patient and true to your goals. My best clients are the ones that pester me the most. They question and question until they understand every word of the plan I have designed for them. But once they understand why they are doing what, the questions cease, greed (for results overnight) flies out the window and results show up!

Remember – I and 90% of those making transformations are in no way genetically gifted or superior than today’s normal below average human and if we can do it, so can you. Life is just better when you’re fit! Give it a shot. You’ll be happy you did.

Peace out!

PS: As stated earlier, this is just the start of a large series. Stick around and you’ll be free… free from obsessive dieting, free from compulsive exercising and free from this vicious  cycle of craving, indulging and guilt!

11 responses to “Can’t lose fat? Come on! You’re not that stupid!

  1. varsha tiwary December 6, 2011 at 5:26 pm

    totally love this Raj : you are in your element here : a great coach inspires – you do it rather well !!

  2. Roxana December 6, 2011 at 8:50 pm

    What Varsha says – you inspire and you do it rather well. Just 3 months ago, I’d have got defensive, reading this. But not anymore. I am a long way off from where I hope I will be, but I like that interacting with you has taught me a lesson in trying and not giving up. THAT was my problem – that i just found it so easy to give up, in the past.

  3. Jes December 6, 2011 at 9:45 pm

    WOW!! This is SUPER motivation. Indeed you are a great coach, keep up the good work and be blessed.
    Re: Step 4 – Redeem yourself by staying patient…. Thanks Raj
    You know what? I’d rather be patient with myself than be – “A Patient”

  4. anantha December 7, 2011 at 8:44 am

    Okie. That’s it. you are going on my feed reader. Better late than never! Heh.

  5. Madhuram December 7, 2011 at 9:14 am

    Great post Raj. If this doesn’t motivate, what else will?

  6. swarna mani December 7, 2011 at 12:16 pm

    Nice one…looking forward to the series…

  7. Tonus December 10, 2011 at 1:46 am

    I think that ‘stupid’ is the appropriate term, in that one of the definitions implies that stupidity is not based on a lack of knowledge or intelligence. It is based on a lack of application of that knowledge or intelligence. For a very long time, I fit the description you wrote above. I knew I was out of shape. I knew I was overweight. I did not like the way I looked or felt, and I knew what I needed to do to change it… and I didn’t. How else to describe that behavior except as stupid? It was stupid!

    Ten months ago I decided to stop trying to mask my stupidity with excuses and rationalizations, because that’s just an example of layering stupidity over stupidity. I lost 30 lbs, which is not as big a deal as the fact that I’ve kept it off ever since, and become fitter and stronger in the interim. I still have 20 lbs I want to get rid of and more muscle to build, and an awareness that the only way to get there is to not be stupid.

    Keep telling it like it is. A lot of people (myself in that group) cannot progress until we admit to ourselves certain truths that are not very pretty. But being in denial is a really poor way to deal with being stupid.

  8. Sonia December 10, 2011 at 7:28 am

    This is the best article you have ever written. Really inspiring.

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