Note: This post is explosive and offensive and it was intended to be so. For that, I’m not sorry. Most people need fire under their bottoms in order to get up and do something and I’m hoping this post does that. If you are easily hurt, it’s best that you don’t read this post.
I’m a fitness trainer. You want fat loss? I’ll give you fat loss. You want strength? I’ll give you strength. In addition to this I’m a nutrition coach and so can tell you how to eat real food (?!) and help you be the healthiest you’ve been. But I’m not married yet and I don’t have any kids (none that I know off at least!) and I don’t know squat about parenting or kids.
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So why am I even writing this post?
Because it is
funny scary that most parents today don’t have the common sense that even I have with respect to feeding children. Let me explain.
I was at this birthday party recently. The person whose birthday it was cut the cake and it was being served to every one. There was this one little kid in the party (about 5-7 yr old) who didn’t want cake. He didn’t know why… but he just didn’t want it. Fair enough right? But guess what? I saw his parents trying to convince him to eat the cake… and not just once. 15 min later I look around and I find the kid and his parents in a corner. The kid is seated and both his mom and dad are kneeling in front of him with a piece of cake in their hands, literally forcing the kid to eat it! What The F*&^!!! Is this for real??!
Did I piss you off yet? Great! ‘Cos I’m just getting started.
Which baby formula did/do you feed your toddler?
Unless your answer is ‘I didn’t use any’ please don’t even bother answering. Why? Because it is called FORMULA! What part of this do you not get?? Wake the hell up… humans eat FOOD! So please feed human babies real FOOD!
I’ve been wanting to get this off my chest for a while now. So now that its done, let’s continue.
Most times, kids don’t know shit.
What do you expect? They’ve been on planet earth for only a short while and they have been exposed to junk food any day and every day. On TV, in school, at home, at the grocery store, on the road, at parties blah blah. Anywhere and everywhere they have ever been, there was junk food! And that’s all they know.. and that’s all they crave! Why? Because kids don’t know the difference between real food and junk food. Most kids think potatoes and french fries are the same thing and think strawberries grow in trees!
So when your kid goes ‘Wahhhh I’m hungry… I want a donut!!!’ or ‘I want pizza for dinner else I won’t eat!!!’ realize that the same kid also wants to play videogames all day, never write an exam and have a pet lion/pony.
Bottom Line – Your kids don’t know what is good for them. The sneaky little things are just trying to get their sugar fix. Why? Because sugar is addictive! Step up and show them what’s good.
Sometimes, kids know more than you do.
Ever seen kids ravenously hungry some days and literally averse to foods on some other days? All animals are all born with a very efficient and complicated feedback loop. Provided the animal is eating real food, it eats when it is hungry and fasts when it is not. It is almost unheard of that an animal eats itself to fatness (if it eats what it is meant to eat). It is only when neolithic foods (like grains) and engineered/processed foods (a.k.a junk food) are introduced that obesity strikes. Don’t believe me? How many fat/obese wild animals have you seen? Probably none. How many fat pets have you seen? Probably too many!
Similarly, if left to their own elements, kids know when to eat and when not to. This is where kids know more than you and I do. So trust the human body and let them feed per their hunger/appetite.
Bottom line – As long as they are eating real food, let them eat as much as they like when hungry and as little as they like when not.
At all times, you better be the boss.
I see parents writing/saying all the time – ‘Feeding kids healthy stuff is hard!’. Sure it is. But it is also hard to make kids go to school and to teach them to respect elders and to not eat stuff off the floor and take them along to your place of worship. If you’re boss enough to make all this stuff happen, you should be boss enough to be able to feed your kids healthy food. And trust me, eating nutritious food during their growing ages is WAY more important than going to church/temple. (Yep… I just said that. By all means go ahead and hate me but I’ll always call a spade a spade.)
Make no mistake – I’m not suggesting you be a food nazi. Just make sure that 75% of the time, they eat good nutritious wholesome FOOD.
Bottom line – Call the shots! Don’t make dinner a living hell by forcing tasteless boring food but also don’t allow junk food to become a regular in their diets.
Clean out your pantry.
Note: I’ve dedicated a blog post to this earlier which you can read here.
Kids will eat what is available. Put a kid in a world where there is only meat, eggs, fruit and vegetables and that’s all they will crave and that’s all they will eat. You don’t think so? What do think kids feasted on before junk food and baby formula were invented? What do you think hunter-gatherers fed their little ones? Wholesome awesome real food!
Throw the junk out of the house. Period. Stop buying cookies, chips, soda and other crap for the house. Your pantry should be filled with vegetables, fruits, meat, eggs, organic dairy and nuts. Anything and everything you make at home should be using these ingredients. This will take care of the nutritious 75% of their diet. When they are out at a friends place or a party, let them have what the other kids have. It’s all about balance.
Bottom line – Store only what is wholesome and nutritious. The occasional cookie/brownie/pizza indulgence can happen outside the house.
Show your love by nourishing their body… not by destroying it.
I’ve seen too many parents say ‘Oh I want to bake an awesome cake for my little pumpkin!’. OK seriously… stop the nonsense. Is sugary flour based dessert all you can think of to make your child happy? You can’t come up with one awesome tasting and nutritious real food based food item? That’s just sad!
Realize, I’m not saying kids should never eat sugar. I’m saying make the food item (even if it is dessert) more nutritious. How? Make the dessert with eggs, organic cream, butter, fruit, nuts, cocoa, honey and other nutritionally superior foods. Rich delicious unbelievably awesome tasting ice-cream which is also very healthy can be made at home in very little time. Quit making dessert with sugar, oil and flour. And please for christ’s sake stop buying cheap dessert!
Bottom line – If you truly love your kids and want to see them live long and strong and healthy, treat them to great tasting food made from real and wholesome ingredients.
Enough ranting! Where can you learn more?
Here ya go…
Note: Please take the time to read these links, especially if you are a parent or planning on being one soon. There is so much valuable information in these links you will thank yourself for investing the time and effort.
When it comes to children, food quality matters much more than food quantity. Like I said earlier, if you keep the food quality high they will take care of the quantity themselves. For the love of God, please don’t put your kids on a diet and increase their risk of being obese. Feed them real food and they will grow up to be freakin awesome!
If this is not an important topic to talk about, I don’t know what is! Please share your experiences/concerns/questions with respect to children and how you keep them healthy. Also, take a moment and share this post with friends and family!